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What Is An Energy Vampire? 

by Judith Orloff

Many of us “sensitives”absorb energy from others, particularly negative energy, and get exhausted by it. It’s essential that we learn strategies not to do that. Please refer to my book, "Guide to Intuitive Healing"* in chapter 7 on Centering and Protection for many techniques. In that chapter I also talk about energy vampires, those people who sap our energy. Here’s an introduction to dealing with them which is part of the third step to intuitive healing I discuss in the book. We need to combat these creature so they don’t suck the life from us! 

Relationships are always an energy exchange. To stay feeling our best, we must ask ourselves: Who gives us energy? Who saps it? It's important to be surrounded by supportive, heart-centered people who make us feel safe and secure. It's equally important to pinpoint the energy vampires, who, whether they intend to or not, leech our energy.

Positive energy in others can be rejuvenating . For instance, you're nervous about a job interview, but the minute you meet your prospective boss you relax. He's so calm and welcoming, you calm down too. Or perhaps you have a good friend around whom you always feel loved. These are energy-givers, those we must gravitate towards. 

In contrast, energy vampires exude negative energy that drains. Vampires range from the intentionally malicious ones to those who are oblivious to their effect. Some are overbearing and obnoxious; others are friendly and charming. For example, you're at a party talking to a perfectly nice person, but suddenly you're nauseous or weak. Or how about the co-worker who drones on about how she broke up with her boyfriend for the tenth time? Eventually, she feels better, but you're spent. The bottom line is that on a subtle energy level these people suck you dry. 

1. Take an inventory of people in your life who give energy, and people who drain. Specifically identify the energy vampires, and begin to evaluate ones you'd like to limit contact with or eliminate. Plan at least one complete afternoon with people who give off positive energy and avoid drainers. Notice how this beneficially affects their physical and emotional well-being.

2. Protect Your Energy: Set Clear Boundaries  It’s crucial to limit the time you spend discussing a vampire’s gripes. When approaching her, remember:  the difference between being a bitch and setting boundaries is attitude. Instead of saying, “You’re selfish and self-obsessed, I can’t take you anymore, ”which a part of you likely feels, take a breath and shift to your heart. 

3.Meditate. Sitting in meditation is a life-line to your center, to the earth. it will ground you when you’ve been struck by a vampire.  By calming the mind, you can re-align with your essence.  Close your eyes. Focus on your breath. Then gently extend your awareness downward to strata, bedrock, minerals, and soil. From the base of your spine begin to feel a continuity with the earth's core. Picture having a long tail that roots in that center.  Allow the earth's energy to infuse your body and stabilize you. If you meditate for five minutes or an hour this is sacred time. 

4. When you’re with vampires you can’t get away from visualize a protective shield of while light surrounding every inch of you. This lets positive energy in, but keeps negative energy out—particularly efficient for vampires at family dinners or social events where you’re trapped. 

(Used with permission from the author)

Judith Orloff,  M.D is a board certified psychiatrist and practicing intuitive, author of the bestsellers," Second Sight", and "Intuitive Healing", and her latest book "Positive Energy". She is assistant clinical professor of Psychiatry at UCLA and an international workshop leader.